Ethel & Noble

Home doesn’t feel like it belongs to me. I’m a stranger living in someone else’s home. I live in fear of them. I can’t do anything out of line.

My life is not as important as theirs. feel like I am not worthy or good enough.

I do not deserve anything. But they do. They are the most amazing thing on earth. I am scum. I am the worst. Everything I do is wrong. I always do things.

Everything I say is critcized. Everything I say is saved for future reference.

I feel humiliated every single day. I feel like an animal, with no human rights. I don’t deserve any of my needs to be met. They come first. I live misery and pain every single day. But my pain is not real. Only their suffering is worthy. I am not worthy. Iam discarded and used. My needs are never on the table.

Read on to discover the cycle of abuse of a narcissist

THE NARCISSIST’S CYCLE OF ABUSE

1. Tension Building

Tensions increase, breakdown of communication, victim becomes fearful and feels the need to placate the abuser.

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2. Incident

Verbal, emotional & physical abuse. Anger blaming, arguing. Threats. Intimidation.

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3. Reconciliation

Abuser apologizes, gives excuses, blames the victim, denies the abuse occurred, or says that the abuse wasn’t as bad as the victim claims.

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4. Calm

Incident is ‘forgotten”, no abuse is taking place. The “honeymoon” phase.

The cycle starts all over again from

Calm ➡️ Tension building ➡️ Incident ➡️ Reconciliation

BACK TO YOU

Do you feel like you are with a narcissist?

Is your experience with a narcissist like mine? Do you feel like you are in a cycle of abuse?

Their behavior towards you is not your fault. You can move on. You can get past this. I’ll be rooting for you over here.