Ethel & Noble

1. Asking for help – is a sign of weakness, a sign that you don’t want to help yourself. It means that you don’t want to be independent 

2. Trust = pain – Your parents can be the first people that teach you how to betray people,

3. Manipulation gets you things – your parents want you to be around them 24/7, so they manipulate you to get you to stay in the house with them.

4. Talking about what you like can make you lose that thing (not in a showing-off way) – In some families, you don’t mention what you like else you will lose it the next day, whether it is your favorite channel or friend or food. It just disappears from your life.

5. Money is everything – When you take a position other than the first position in class, “Is it that poor result you want to use to make money?” When you eat more than three slices of bread, “you are wasting my money.”

6. Listening and understanding are bad – Your parents don’t listen to you, but they want you to listen to them. They don’t want to put themselves in your shoes, but they want you to see where they are coming from.

7. Body-shaming = love – according to my parents. But it hurts each time they do it. They criticize your body. And tell you, “it’s because I love you that’s why I’m saying these things some people are looking for parents who will correct them.”

8. Command in the form of advice – Some parents give you suggestions, “why don’t you wear high heels?” And when you say “thank you for the counsel, but I don’t like heels” then their other sides show, “you are very stubborn, you don’t obey me.” I don’t get, “am I an adult or a child?” 

9. Time limit for anger – When you are angry, some parents come to chat with you like they didn’t offend and the annoying part is that they will be discussing only their interests – their likes, dislikes, and what happened in their day.” When you ignore them to show that you are still mad at them especially since they refuse to apologize, then they say, “you don’t appreciate me, some children don’t have parents who talk to them.”